Anyhow, fear is what takes the form of jealousy also in our relationships. Fear is the underlying emotion for most of our actions and emotions. jealousy, anger, greed all these emotions are rooted in fear. But we are not aware of this. We dont know that fear is the causative factor for all these. That is the problem. That is why we continue to be in the dark as far as our behavioural patterns are concerned. That is why relationships turn out to be traumatic. Understand that fear and love can never co-exist. If there is pure love in a relationship, there can never be fear. If there is fear, there can never be pure love. There is some vested interest in the relationship; there is some purpose, some objective, some expectation of security or greed or returns in the relationship.

That is why fear sets in. We look for security in every relationship. We need some security to settle down comfortably. This is actually a kind of imprisonment that we enjoy. People talk of freedom, but I tell you: they are so afraid of it! They like only imprisonment. In the comfortable cushioning effect of imprisonment, they think they are free. A small story: A small girl asked her father one day, Dad, what is the meaning of the word guaranteed? The father replied, It means that something is made well and it will last for a long time. That night before going to sleep, the girl called out, Good night guaranteed father! All of us look for security continuously in our lives. But we say that we are looking for freedom.

If we are really looking for freedom, why are we looking for security? Why fear? As long as you have fear in you, you will look for security. Until then, you can only delude yourself by saying that you want freedom. A Master is one who will throw you upon the utter insecurity of life. He is the only one who gives you complete freedom. That is why with him, you feel insecure; you feel afraid. Freedom creates fear. You will never feel utterly insecure in your other relationships because there is always some push and pull of greed, fear and anger that keeps you well-settled in the familiar patterns of relationships. But with a Master, you are totally free. So you become afraid. A small story: A man was in prison for 20 years.

On the day of his release, he appeared very worried and tense. His friend in the prison asked him, What has happened to you? Why are you so worried? The man replied, I am afraid. What will I do when I go out? The prison has created such a solid pattern of security for the man that he does not know what he will do when he goes outside! This is the danger of getting caught in patterns and security. A Master will never offer you the security you are looking for. He will never offer you the patterns you are looking for. When you dont get the security you are looking for, you will grow with deep centering within yourself; you will grow fearlessly because you know there is nothing to lose; and when you know there is nothing to lose, you have no fear.

To show you that there is nothing to lose, the Master throws you upon utter insecurity. Out of his deep compassion for you, out of deep concern for your growth, he doesnt offer you security. When you dont find the mundane security, you will find God; you will understand Existence. All your fears are because you dont clearly know that there is nothing to lose. Just one encounter with near death can show you that there is nothing to lose and that all your fears are baseless. The Master simply makes you understand this in his own way. So dont try to escape from the Master. Understand that he is here only to show you what you actually are. Your inherent nature is fearlessness. Over years, you have been instilled with fear.

The Master tries to break the layers of conditioning that you have taken upon yourself over the years, that's all. If you just allow him to work upon you, with trust and love, you will see yourself transform in front of your own eyes.